Healing out loud

I remember feeling like my silence was the answer to my healing. For generations, we have been taught that "what happens in the house, stays in the house." It was through that toxic programming that the suffering I endured in private became the very chain that kept me bound to ancestral and generational trauma.

I thought that if I just kept quiet, I would eventually heal. If I buried the pain deep enough, maybe it would disappear. But what I didn't realize was that silence was the very thing suffocating me. The unspoken pain, the hidden wounds, and the unaddressed traumas didn't just fade away—they festered. They seeped into my relationships, my self-worth, and my ability to trust myself.

It wasn’t until I began to speak out that I felt the weight begin to lift.

I remember sitting across from my therapist, perplexed about what I was experiencing and whether it was even real. I had been gaslighted for so long that reality felt like a blur—was what I had endured just a figment of my imagination? Or had it actually happened?

Even when she asked, "What brought you in today?" I hesitated. The confusion on my face mirrored the war within me. Do I start from the beginning? Do I even have the words? Am I even allowed to feel enough to begin?

But in that moment, I realized something: my healing could not begin if I remained silent. The power was not in the secrecy—it was in the release. And so, I spoke. At first, my voice trembled. The words felt foreign leaving my lips. But with every truth I unraveled, I felt pieces of myself returning. I felt the chains of shame and guilt begin to loosen.

Sis, I want you to know that silence is not your savior. The enemy thrives in the shadows, but God brings healing in the light. What you have endured is real. What you feel is valid. And your voice is powerful enough to break the generational chains that have kept you bound

3 Practical Steps to Breaking Your Silence:

1. Acknowledge Your Truth – The first step is admitting to yourself what has happened. Write it down, say it aloud in prayer, or tell a trusted friend. Healing begins when you validate your own experiences.

2. Find a Safe Space– Whether it's therapy, a faith-based support group, or a mentor, having a safe space to share your heart is crucial. You do not have to go through this alone.

3. Speak the Word of God Over Your Life – The enemy wants you to stay silent, but God calls you to freedom. Declare verses like Psalm 34:17: "The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles." Let His Word replace the lies of the enemy with truth.

Biblical Encouragement:

- Isaiah 61:1 – "The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me, because the Lord has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners."*

- 2 Timothy 1:7 – "For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind."

- John 8:36 – So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed."

Journal Prompt:

Take a moment to reflect and write:

- What is one truth I have been afraid to speak?

- How has my silence affected my healing?

- What is one step I can take this week to break my silence and step into healing?

Healing begins when you decide to let your truth be known—not for validation, but for liberation. The moment you begin to speak, you begin to reclaim your power.

You are worthy of healing. You are worthy of freedom. And you are worthy of a life unshackled by silence.

It’s time to speak, sis. Your healing is waiting.